Let's Talk : Up's and Downs of Life

Up's and downs of life are inevitable... you just have to learn how to navigate your way through.

Topics: daily struggles, hard times, messed up plans, creating new ideas, working through old plans to form a new future

Hey My Lovely Little Bee's,

It's Brooklyn and it's been awhile since we've spoke. You deal with life as well, so I'm sure you can understand what I mean when I say my past 8 months have been hectic and felt out of my control. Plans I made didn't work out, a future I mentally designed is no longer possible, my time went towards trying to piece myself together while life tried to break me apart. Due to this, I didn't feel I was in the right mental space to help others better themselves, when I, myself, was struggling so.

I had decided to put this blog on the back burner for the time being but a few weeks ago I was mentoring some high schoolers and talking with my life coach about happiness. The talk we had was a fill in the blank discussion of, "I will be happier when....". We went around the room and shared each of our "happier when"'s and I was shocked that my knee jerk reaction was not when I have more friends or when I am older or when I am done with college... It was

I will be happier when I am able to accept life comes with inevitable ups and downs.

I would love to tell you that exact moment I knew I was mentally ready to come back but that would be a lie. I took that day and wrote about it in my journal. Then talked about with my mom. Then sat and thought about the inevitable of life again, and again, and again. Until I sat down two weeks later and just accepted it. Accepted that while this blog is not where I imagined it, while this blog sometimes is hard for me, while this blog is not perfect by any means... Writing, helping people, expressing my love and experiences is something that I enjoy doing and I can't let the downs in life, ruin my happiness. I just have to accept them and create my own pathway to get through them.

So welcome back and welcome to the very first blog post of 2023! Today will be a discussion of what the next steps I am taking in my life and with this blog. My hope is to start a segment on here where I get more personal with sharing my life in hopes of inspiring yours.

The first thing,

The first thing I want to discuss is when things aren't going the way you planned, it's okay to step back, regroup, and change your plans.

This is a hard one, especially for me who struggles with perfectionism. But as we know, life has downs, and often times it throws wrenches in our plans. This could be debilitating for some or barely dent another, but for me, it's the former.

I began my plans for the blog when I was a junior in high school. I am now two days away from being a sophomore in college and as I have grown, I no longer seem to fit into the the original mold I created.

This was hard for me to accept and is a part of the reason I felt like I needed to put BE era on the back burner. I felt like I had failed, when in fact, I had grown.

In light of this realization, I went back to the drawing board and have decided to implement some changes, starting with today's new segment: LET'S TALK.

My past blog posts felt distant to me and disconnected to who I am as a person. How can we trust someones word who we don't even know? Don't know what they believe in? Or what they are going through or have gone through?

So, this new segment will be dedicated to using my personal stories and experiences to inspire parts of your life with my own. A new way of connecting our beehive community.

With this, I would LOVE to have you all share your own stories or request parts of life (dating, adulting, social media) that you'd want to hear from me. This can be through commenting on blog posts or messages on Instagram. Our DM's are always open!

Secondly,

With accepting change and the inevitable's of life, I am going to take the blog day by day for now. Some of the past blog posts didn't feel like my best work upon going back and I felt like that was an attempt to attain to what I planned to write and rush out as much content as I could, rather than writing from my heart and in the moment.

My best work (in my own opinion), is when I lead with my heart. This post is an example. These words don't feel forced out of me, they are flowing from my tongue with ease.

In accepting that I am not perfect, my words aren't always great, my mind needs breaks, and I do make mistakes, I am accepting life's inevitable's, therefore am becoming happier each day.

A last note to my lovely bee's that I hope to see more of...

Life is not steadfast, it is not constant or dependable. It is a rollercoaster with surprises of good and bad.

It throws the unexpected in our faces and expects us to deal, but guess what? Those surprises, that unexpectedness, is what makes life so lovely. So beautiful. Without it, life would appear boring, too predictable, too stale.

I am learning to embrace the crazy. The weird and the unusual times. I am learning to navigate through the hard times where it feels like the bad became too strong for me to overcome. And each time I do, I become stronger and more prepared for the next unexpected surprise life wants to throw my way.

And I hope, that you too, are working to accept that life is not steadfast or dependable. I hope that you are learning to accept the inevitable ups and downs that make our life so magnificently wonderful.

I encourage you to leave a comment or share your story on how you are learning and navigating your way through the up's and downs. Sharing stories and building a community you can rely on is an amazing way to navigate your way through life.

Have a wonderful rest of your day my lovely bee's and I will see you again soon,

Brooklyn Dieterle.